Why your Mind Prevents You from Realizing Your Dreams

by Boris Vene

There are many miserable people in the world. Some of these people already know how the mind works and the subconscious acts, and their important role in achieving goals, yet, somehow they just cannot make it work for them. Why is this so?

First, they put too much mental effort into calculating solutions. They say something like,

"From now on I'll be telling myself that I'll earn $100,000 by the end of the year. If I tell myself that every day, I will surely reach my goal." Every day they say, "Oh, I haven't stated my goal enough today. If I'm not consistent, things won't happen right. Let's go, I'll get rich. I'll get rich."

Will this person ever realize his dream of making $100,000 by the end of the year? Never. Clearly, he or she doesn't truly believe they can achieve their goal. Subconscious doesn't work on the principle of, "If you behave, you'll get candy," but rather on, "Think as if you have candy and I'll make sure you get it."

Skeptical people say: "I'll believe it when I see it." Those who know the rules of life say, "I believe and for that I'll see." William Arthur Ward, author of Mind Power, says, "If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it."

You cannot call conscious affirmations thoughts or beliefs because you say them within the domain of your objective mind. This is why conscious effort and discipline alone never really help in successfully reprogramming your subconscious. The solution is in feeling the goals as if you've already achieved them! Engage your senses and allow yourself to be overcome with feelings of joy, victory, happiness, satisfaction and relief and delete the feelings of fear, need and longing.

When you reach such a state, you are giving your subconscious the right direction and are laying down the information from which your subconscious will later draw on. Then, when similar circumstances occur in your life, your subconscious will recognize it and provide the solution that is reflected in your thoughts.

Your subconscious will draw on the experience you have planted there as if you really had that experience and it will use that information to provide the appropriate solution that ultimately leads to your success.

One of the benefits of achieving such a state is that you will never try to do or repeat anything else because your subconscious mind now records that positive experience in a powerful way. The following example (watching a sports event on TV) illustrates the thinking state that accompanies you in both the right and wrong behavior.

If you know the final score beforehand, you don't worry about all the minor victories and defeats along the way. Your attention will even wander to other things surrounding the game, the commercials or team composition and statistics, which would otherwise go unnoticed. If you don't know who the winner will be, then you'll be on the edge of your seat the whole game, nervous whenever the opposing team has the ball. Nothing else will matter or gain your attention until you see the final, winning score.

It's the same with other situations you face day by day. Always, when you are not certain of a positive outcome, you try to force one - doing what your intellect tells you to do. Because you are afraid of a negative outcome, you do everything to avoid or prevent it. However, this behavior is telling your subconscious you have little faith and what you are feeling is fear. Because fear is stronger than the belief in a positive outcome, the result is exactly what you were afraid of.

Subconscious detects all thoughts and delivers the product of the thought you believe in the most. Therefore, the solution is not in acting thoughtlessly, displaying little faith and trying to prevent the worst from happening - this behavior delivers the fruit of fear and brings you "bad luck." How many times have you heard someone say: "What I feared the most came true." Of course it did!

>> Reverse Psychology Technique Ė A Magic Wand for Everyone That Seems Plagued with Failure

Vera Pfeiffer, in her book, Positive Thinking, says: The more you try, the less you succeed.

Well, it isnít quite that simple. That thought is really only valid for cases where you are trying to fix something and you donít believe your subconscious will bring you to the solution. All successful people, whether they are businesspeople, artists, scientists, etc., achieve their success through trying to get results. The difference is, they donít give up, trying longer and harder they eventually arrive at the place where they have done it instead of tried it.

It is true and is always valid for actions you want to force, times when you donít listen to your inner voice, intuition and signs, but instead do what your logic offers.

Martin Kojc, in his book, The Manual of Life, describes how a Professor Chodoansky was experimenting on how to cure the common cold. The Professor decided that he could conduct his research better if he had a cold. He then consciously decided to get a cold, but that was not successful, so he tried to speed up the process and make himself sick. After taking a cold shower, he stood naked in front of an opened window thinking that for sure he would catch a cold. Then he lie down in an ice bath so cold he shook from head to toe. No matter what he tried, he could not make himself catch a cold.

Has something like this ever happened to you? Of course, it has. You can probably remember a sleepless night when you tried hard to fall asleep. Finally, when all else failed, you tried to use the popular technique of counting sheep. If I canít sleep, Iíll count sheep, because I heard it might help. Did that solve your problem? Probably not, but depending on how strong your belief in that method was, coupled with your experience in using it, you may have had some measure of success. Most people say it had the opposite effect. Why?

Because wishing and hoping something will work or happen, does not make it so. If you are not convinced, deep inside, that it will really make a difference, yet at the same time wishing and hoping strongly that it will work Ė the stronger thought wins. Your wishing and hoping, without the essential belief to bring it about may even be sabotaging the possibility of realizing what you want.

How can you use this discovery to your advantage in real life?

Next time you canít fall asleep, say: I have to stay awake today. No matter what happens, I must not close my eyes even for a second. Iíll take some books and read them until morning. Then Iíll take a shower and go to work. What is the result? You fall asleep after only a few minutes! Letís analyze what happened. After a few unsuccessful experiments, you decided to apply the Law of Reverse Psychology. You consciously gave yourself a task and tried hard for it to work out.

Nevertheless, deep inside, your inner voice said, Really. You think it can be so simple. What if you fall asleep? While you were consciously telling yourself to Stay awake, you unintentionally saw yourself sleeping with the light switched on and with the book in your lap instead. Intellect always doubts when you are not certain about the successful realization of your goal. The image that was in the background all the time was so strong it hampered all your efforts to stay awake because that is what the subconscious saw and brought into reality.

Most of us can probably relate to the next example of trying to get attention and affection from a certain person. After paying compliments, doing little favors, trying to show them how much you respect their opinions, making obvious efforts to be understanding and showing support for their ideas in front of others, you donít get back the affection you want. Feelings of weakness, anger and disappointment are born.

After a while, youíve had enough and stop doing all the little extras to win their attention and affection. You stop bragging about them and give them no special attention thinking, If heís not interested in me, then life should simply return to what it was like before we met. You redirect your thoughts to other matters. Now you only pay that person as much attention as you do everyone else (it is wrong to ignore the person - and that happens often as a reaction of ego, pride, etc.). You continue to be kind and good and behave as though nothing ever happened between the two of you. Although that personís reaction to your attention was negative, you are not adversely effected. (Can you see how easy it is to forget the greatest love once you unplug and distance yourself from it?) What happens?

The same person who didn't pay you any attention before now begins to take an interest in you.

It is a game of energy. If you want something from someone or try to impose your needs on him or her, a similar situation arises because it isnít what ďthatĒ person wants. The solution lay always in the middle ground.

Returning to the example, where the situation is completely reversed, suddenly your opinion matters and he or she now finds you trustworthy and someone they want to confide in. In the first case you were giving your energy to the other person (in the form of affection and approval), in the second case, you withdrew your energy. Feeling an overall absence of energy, the other person seeks to restore the balance of the original state. With your energy withdrawn, the other person must now go farther to restore the balance of energy, so far that they are now willing to invest some of their energy, attention. When you redirected your energy and gave up your desire, it came true.

Physics, which, among other things, describes the various relationships and behavior of energy exchange, can explain this phenomenon. The universe acts according to the principles of energy exchange and humans are primarily beings of energy that have a physical form. Thus, the idea that physics could inform the notion of relationships between human beings as an overall interaction and exchange of energy is not only phenomenal, but also becoming more recognized in the world.

This example illustrates one of the basic Laws of Nature. As long as you are trying to gain the affection of another person, your over exuberance causes the energy scale to tip out of balance, resulting in the object of your affection withdrawing theirs to the point of indifference. For them, this situation is ideal. You are now in deep and under their control, eyes wide and bright, eager to please, doing whatever they want to the extinction of your own needs.

When you withdraw your attention, and thus your energy, the scale tips in the opposite direction and the other party sees the resulting deficit as their losing control over you. Their fear of losing now compels them to respond by investing their energy to get yours back on their side again.

Whenever you feel the compulsion to force a situation, you are in danger of any disbelief you may harbor of a successful outcome overtaking you and extinguishing any tiny spark of faith and hope you have.

This happens with everything in your life that is going well for you Ė the bulk of your current efforts, coupled with the positive direction you are headed in, are overshadowed by a general, background image of doubt and disbelief. This is where you find the answers to your specific challenges. This is the root cause of why you have been unable to climb out of financial hardship, the reason you canít harmonize with your spouse or significant other and why you have been unsuccessful at realizing your dreams.

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